I promised I'd do a post a day and I'm trying to do my best to do so. Today we actually start the very first topic of my questioning week, love. This seemly complex thing that we all seek after in one way or another.
My dictionary describes love as an intense feeling of deep affection or a deep romantic or sexual attachment to someone. But when ever most of use use it we're talking about out boyfriends or girlfriends and the second description. Even then its not a word we use casually.
It's something of a big deal to say something like "I love you" to someone we're dating. Peoople send a lot of time trying to discover whether they really love someone. Others obsess over when they'll final hear these three words, "I love you", from their significant other.
I have a group of friends that I grew up with. And I really mean grew up with. We played hide and seek, had water fights and rode bikes together. As we grew older we somehow began clam down and mellow out until a point where we did nothing but hang out at our spot in the estate we called "the Bench" and just talked and laughed and argued and fought. We may not all still live in the same estate, we've scattered, others out of the country, but we still hang out when ever we can. I have lots of love for these guys, they've individually and collectively taken me through a lot.
Why is it the words "I love you" seem to mean so much? Hasn't the use of this phrase distorted and diluted the true meaning of love? Is it wrong that I feel love for all my friends and choose to tell them using those words? Or am I confusing my feelings? Why isn't the word love used more often, to describe things like friendships. Why is it such a big deal when used within a relationship? Have you ever thought of this? Let me know...comment. Peace!!